Singer Akon Gives Men a Bad Name

One of those TMZ cameras caught up with Akon and asked him some questions about relationships and marriage. His response even shocked the gossip site. Akon believes that the reason the divorce rate is so high in America and why domestic disputes happen are because we as a country haven’t adopted polygamy. Akon goes on to explain: “If America adopted that [polygamy] culture there would be less domestic disputes. The average guy in the world has a main girl and they got a side chick. And then they got a jump off.” “At the end of the day as a male we are natural breeders by nature. We can’t even escape it if we wanted to. Let’s say you put 1,000 guys on one corner and one bad chick walk passed. You gon’ see 1,000 heads go, ‘Damn.’ They don’t even know why they doing it. They’re natural breeders. It’s in their genes, they can’t help it. Even if you’re walking with your girl and you’re holding her hand and you see a bad chick walk by and she lookin’ at you like, ‘Boy you better not look,’ you gonna wanna look so bad and you don’t even know why that urge is there, but you’re a natural breeder. It’s what we do. Men are put on this earth to breed and the reason why God put multiple women on this earth is for that.” “When looking at reproduction, there’s always going to be more reproducing that actual reproducers themselves. There’s more to it scientifically, but as humans, women need to take more time to understand men. If they can do that I think things will work out better for us.” “Marriage just solidifies a relationship between a man and a woman spiritually under God’s eyes. So, I can be spiritually attached to her, and still be spiritually attached to [another woman], and still be spiritually attached to [another woman.] “Now, when you’re talking about commitment, understanding, loyalty—that’s a different conversation because what happens now is that people are having relationships, boyfriend and girlfriend, and treating it like it’s actually marriage. You’re just dating. The whole purpose of dating is so you can date this one, and date this one, and date this one until you find out, ‘Okay, this is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. Okay now, I commit to what’s called marriage.’ You find that one woman that supplies everything that you desire in a woman, of course that will be a motivation to stick with that one woman, but I don’t know no one woman that can satisfy every man’s one need. It’s impossible. Just like there’s not one man that can satisfy a woman’s every need, but women aren’t built to breed like that or mate with more than one partner. Women aren’t built that way, men are.” Some people have come to Akon’s defense saying that he’s Muslim and that it is his culture and beliefs that define his thoughts on relationships and marriage. Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs and ways of navigating through the world. However, what I think Akon is saying has nothing to do with his cultural beliefs and everything to do with saying that he is a man and men do these things. What Akon is really describing isn’t a man or a human being, it’s an animal. By taking no responsibility for his actions saying that it’s just the way he’s made – to be a breeder – makes him sound like an animal. And the funny thing about animals in the wild are that some of them are actually in committed relationships with their mates until the day they die. So even animals are more responsible than some men. That definitely says something. I know that men often get a bad rap for being unfaithful and for having a wandering eye. But I have to say that all men aren’t like that. I know there are some of you who won’t believe me when I say this because you’ve either been hurt by men or so brainwashed by stereotypes – I was like that myself once. My point is a naked, flawless woman could walk by my fiance and he wouldn’t even notice her. There are decent people out there who don’t think like Akon, who want a committed relationship and are completely happy with what they have. I feel that because of Akon’s comments, other men might see this as a chance to get a free pass for their unfaithful ways. There will always be people out there that feel that what they have will never be enough – that attributes to divorce in this country, but monogamy isn’t the reason why people can’t stay married. Personally I think the reason divorce rates are higher is because it’s more acceptable than it was 30-40 years ago. People aren’t staying together for fear of a social stigma anymore. I would like to end this by saying that I as a female find it highly offensive that Akon would label all men into one stereotype. Men and women are the same – we are both kind, loving, committed, emotional creatures who just have different parts. A majority of men deserve so much more credit than Akon’s comments. Source: TMZ