Are you the type of person that is constantly doing favors for other people and never get the time to really do something for yourself? Sure, there are people out there that need a helping hand but don’t let anyone fool you. Some people will notice and take advantage of what a giving person you are and use it against you. This compromises your time and energy, leaving you drained and stressed. In these cases, it’s ok to say “no” – and it’s a skill worth learning! You have to set some time for yourself and your wellbeing. You deserve it! Closeup of young woman receiving back massage.Whether you’re a working woman, full-time mommy, or even both, you need some time for your interests and the activities that make you feel relaxed. Spend time with friends. Read a book. Make a day of pampering. Get your hair, manicure, and pedicure done, then finish off with a massage! Massage therapy is a GREAT way to start caring for yourself, and as a Licensed Massage Therapist, I have seen the results firsthand in my clients. Massage therapy is not only a great way to really get “you time” – it also releases stress, makes you feel cared for, and is great for your wellbeing! Here are some of the benefits:

  • Alleviates low-back pain and improves range of motion
  • Assists with shorter, easier labor for expectant mothers and shortens maternity hospital stays
  • Eases medication dependence
  • Enhances immunity by stimulating lymph flow – the body’s natural defense system
  • Exercises and stretches weak, tight, or atrophied muscles
  • Helps athletes of any level prepare for, and recover from, strenuous workouts
  • Improves the condition of the body’s largest organ – the skin
  • Increases joint flexibility
  • Lessens depression and anxiety
  • Promotes tissue regeneration, reducing scar tissue and stretch marks
  • Pumps oxygen and nutrients into tissues and vital organs, improving circulation
  • Reduces post-surgery adhesions and swelling
  • Reduces spasms and cramping
  • Relaxes and softens injured, tired, and overused muscles
  • Releases endorphins – amino acids that work as the body’s natural painkiller
  • Relieves migraine pain.

Just remember, you wake up every day with yourself and go to bed every night with yourself. You need to make your happiness and health a priority. So start taking control, be happy, and most importantly – love yourself! You will soon find out who appreciates your help and who takes advantage of your kindness. We only live once. Start eliminating the negativity and surround yourself with positivity! (This article was originally seen in The Women’s Issue – a digital magazine we create in celebration of Women’s History Month.) Our guest author Bernadette ColliBernadette Colli is a Licensed Massage Therapist in New York, graduate of New York College of Health Professionals. Currently working at Massage Envy. Contact her at!